Thursday, July 21, 2011

"Beyond its social dimension, shame also has a devastating personal complexity. When a person is sexually abused, they often feel great shame at what happened to them. The strategy of such violence is to make the victim feel guilty and even responsible for what has happened. Sometimes this personal shame makes the victim silent and passive; consequently, the crime never becomes public. In some instances the threat of social shame further strengthens the decision to stay silent.

Part of the essential work in healing such wounds is to help the person to see their own innocence and goodness and thus unmask the absolutely unwarranted violence of such intrusion and attack. When a person starts to see this, they often begin to awaken the force of anger within them in relation to what has happened to them. The fire of anger can be magnificent in burning off the false garments of shame." John O'Donohue

There is so much I want to say, including cursing all those who silence the anger of people who need to get angry...