Tuesday, June 26, 2012

a strong sense of freedom

"Marriage frees up emotional energy that can be used to grow and change. When you no longer have to worry about whether you have met the right person, cope with hurt feelings and rejections, deal with the uncertainty about his feelings for you or yours for him, or try to decide whether your relationship warrants a stronger commitment, you have more time and emotional energy.

I remember having a strong sense of freedom from these concerns once the stress and strain of the early years in my marriage were largely straightened out. Hours that had been spent arguing, apologizing, and sorting out different expectations could now be devoted to other things.

If you are in a stable, loving relationship, the best thing that you can do to keep it lively is to continue to develop and change throughout your life." - Dr. Ellen Wachtel, We Love Each Other But... (an exceptionally helpful book.)